I know that there are many of us out there who appreciate partners who can stimulate the mind, make us think, and craft play that is creative and unique... Yes, intelligence is sexy!! But how does someone who practices EMOTIONAL intelligence during play influence perceptions about the overall eroticism of an experience?
Emotional intelligence involves direct communication, negotiations and boundaries, which for some can be a mood killer, especially if you are just looking to hook up. It often seems like emotional intelligence is desirable in committed relationships, but not valued the same in hookups (where the main focus is on the erotic).
What say you? Do you feel emotional intelligence enhances or detracts from a scene or relationship?