Nature gives us so many examples of how to move through life. Here, Bruce Lee discusses how water helps us learn to practice non-attachment: You can read more about how he developed this philosophy here . What other examples do you see and use from nature?
I know that there are many of us out there who appreciate partners who can stimulate the mind, make us think, and craft play that is creative and unique... Yes, intelligence is sexy!! But how does someone who practices EMOTIONAL intelligence during play influence perceptions about the overall eroticism of an experience? Emotional intelligence involves direct communication, negotiations and boundaries, which for some can be a mood killer, especially if you are just looking to hook up. It often seems like emotional intelligence is desirable in committed relationships, but not valued the same in hookups (where the main focus is on the erotic). What say you? Do you feel emotional intelligence enhances or detracts from a scene or relationship?
I stumbled on this video about a year or so ago, and it helped heighten my awareness and intention setting around considering new sexual partners. Not all of my partners are in complete alignment with my intentions, but they don't need to be! ;-) Being able to identify and talk about our intentions can help set appropriate boundaries for all involved, and prevent assumptions, expectations and projections from creating unnecessary conflicts. What does sex mean for you? How might that meaning change in different contexts? How do you think this conversation might change the quality of the sex shared if it was part of each encounter, including with known partners (since intentions and needs might change day to day)? #safesex #negotiation #boundaries #communication #relationships #emotionalintelligence #intentions